Effort as Cheat Code - Inbox Analysis
A single guy, was invited to a recent party. He was 1 of only 2 others single, it was his first party. Find out what he did to get the invite, at the bottom of the page….. he will be invited back.
A hint, it wasn’t what the rest of this article is about . Guys the bar to making connection online, really is so incredibly low.
There are many things about dating, connection, sex, relationships and in fact life, that are difficult or you can't control. Some may even try to argue that some of these things are unfair and it is not their fault.
But what you can 100% control is your effort. What is definitely not unfair is, when you put in no effort, you don't deserve any back.
See my review of messages from single males to my couples inbox on another site.
Effort Split
Ultra-low: ≤2 words or emojis: ~20%
● Content: Generic Greeting – "Hej", "Hello", or just emojis.
Low: 3–15 words: ~42%
● Content: Quick interest, generic compliments, or logistics questions without intro.
● Comment: They are often writing to state that they are attending and they want the info.
Medium — 16–40 words: 22%
● Content: Brief intro + simple question/intent.
● Comment: Again assume they are welcome to attend. Telling me what they want to do here.
High Effort: 40+ words: 15%
● Content: Personalised intros, giving context and intent.
● Comment: Tell me what they want to do to her. Also informing things like they have [sexual attributes/stamina], etc.
The longest message was 58 words.
58 words takes about 1.5 mins to write. Even with the highest amount of thought and effort, it can't have taken more than 5 mins. Nearly every message was about what they wanted to do. Even the ones that seemed less instant on what they wanted made no reference to our preferences.
It takes 12-20 secs to read 58 words. But actually, it takes less as mainly you just ignore.
Sending 200 x 15-word messages is not effort. Sending 15 x 200-word messages will get you much more, but this is still lazy.
Also, having nothing on your profile and then asking the other person to ask you questions or read more about you, is also not effort.
WHAT DID HE DO?
He was polite
Was interested in how he could make sure he made the environment better and not just what he could get out of the situation.
Oh and signed up for the ESP Course. 🤣🦊
A large number of guys who were completely ignored, as they use the tactics in rest of the article.
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