Big Dick Attitude: Understanding the Traits of BDA
We all know that guy at the party. Good looking (according to him), big dick, full of himself. He thinks he is God's gift and acts like it. He spends much of his time monopolising women. He is extremely good at making sure he gets what he wants. Considers that his contribution to the environment is him and his sexual prowess.
I consider these guys to have Big Dick Attitude (BDA) - Unlike the quiet confidence and mutual respect associated with Big Dick Energy (BDE). BDA is marked by entitlement and selfishness. They feed their ego from external and superficial means. This means they need to validate they are special. Putting their needs and maybe even boundaries above others.
- Self-Interest
No matter where you are at the party, they are there. Either in action or waiting to be next again. When the woman says she wants to rest, They back off for a short time and only a short distance.
They are mainly interested in their own desires and satisfaction. Whether at a party or in a social setting, their behaviour is driven by what they can gain from the situation. With little to no regard for the needs or feelings of those around them.
This trait makes interactions feel one-sided and transactional rather than mutual and respectful.
- Inconsiderate
Inconsideration is a core feature of BDA. They ignore the comfort of others. They don't care about the group dynamics and don't worry about how their behaviour might impact those around them - We are lucky they are here to take care of the ladies with their prowess.
At what I consider more sex-positive events, where people are more mindful of what they are doing. This behaviour stands out.
I find it quite telling that when tidying up after parties, the number of discarded condoms on the floor, tends to be larger. They shouldn't waste time with the bin, its better their penis is being used to its full potential.
- Performative
The BDA is more interested in being seen to be good in bed. They might want to make you cum, but it is for their ego rather than their partner's pleasure.
They want validation from surface level and superficial actions. More interested in showing off, asserting their dominance as the alpha. Rather than genuinely engaging and connecting. Which I don't believe they know how to do.
- Inability or Disinterest in Connection
A person with BDA usually shows an inability or lack of interest in forming genuine connections. They're not concerned with understanding others, engaging in conversations, or creating emotional bonds. They are going to get what they want. This often means they fail to read the room or build rapport. This results in shallow and disconnected interactions.
- Opportunistic
Lastly, BDA is often opportunistic. They move from person to person in quick succession. They have to jump from situation to situation to escape their reputation.
They spend more time looking for an opening to get what they want. Instead of talking and interacting with other people.
Much like predators scanning for the weakest prey, they test boundaries and find ways to fulfil their needs. This trait makes them seem predatory and selfish. Interactions are opportunities to fulfill their desires and ego, rather than shared experiences.
Conclusion - Entitlement
To sum it up Entitlement is one of the most glaring characteristics of BDA. They believe they are owed something simply because they are present. Their physical attributes or perceived importance put them above the rules of common courtesy.
The BDA expects admiration and attention. This dynamic spills out into the community as a whole. They want unearned privileges. They can type "interested" as a message, but they are bitter when one replies. They can see your no list as a prize for them to take. They can walk up putting a condom on before they have even interacted with the person.
They deserve more than others; they want recognition without effort.
Recognising these traits is the first step and discouraging them is a step toward fostering more meaningful and respectful connections.
The crazy thing is, that what they desire is readily available. All you have to do is engage, connect, treat others with respect, make them feel comfortable and ASK.
When almost anything goes when someone gives it to you, why feel the need to take it!